Hi Grace- Thanks as always for your encouragement. I do see that he is trying. He is spending more time with me and in someways acting more like we are a couple. He still has a lot of anxiety though. For example, he spent the night the other night and woke up around 3:00 a.m. He couldn't go back to sleep so he woke me up and told me he was thinking he was going to go to his apartment (half hour drive each way) but he would return in the morning since he had committed to being here when my family came over that day. He eventually calmed down and went back to sleep here. Very strange behavior that shows his anxiety.
hey glam- I am sorry about your H's spew. I think your H is trying to let go of his issues but he goes back to them whenever he gets frustrated. I know it has to be hard but it really isn't about your or your M so if you can, try not to take it personally. My H said all kinds of mean things in the beginning but he has now redirected his anger. I'm not sure that is a good thing or not because the anger is still there.
The only plan I have right now is to live my life and try to be happy...however, when in this situation, I know feelings can change moment to moment.
I'm not sure I would say that our H's are stuck...maybe just moving at a snail's pace.
