glam- I am so sorry to hear about you and your H's jobs. I am sure that has to put more strain on you and just adds to the list of reasons why you want and need your H to come home...but that being said, and I know you have heard this a billion times but, this isn't about what you want or need. Your H is giving you what he can right now. He is broken and he is trying in his own way to fix himself. There is no way to know how long this will take so this is going to take an infinite amount of patience from you. All along on this board I have read that you do not want a MLCer home until they are ready...I think I finally get that and you don't want your H to come home only to leave again. I think I am getting closer to being able to accept that things will just happen at their own pace and trying to force it might only prolong things. Since you have small children, you just had the transition of your S20 moving out and now with your employment situation, you have every reason to be anxious and want resolution. However, if you want your M, you are going to have to dig down even deeper to find more patience and understanding.
I have heard that statisically children do better in a single parent household than in a step-parent situation. Wouldn't it be the best thing for your kids to have their father home even if it takes awhile longer???
It does sound like your H is making more positive comments to you. Appreciate the little steps as much you can and try to take the focus off of where your H is living at the moment.
