Divorce is around the corner II

[Cinderellaman]

Truelove, do you also live on this side of the pond ? I keep wondering.....

[Truelove]

Hi Cinders,

Yes I do.

[Cinderellaman]

althought sometimes there is quite a big difference between the person you think he is and the person you meet

EXACTLY what happened to me !!!!! This guy knew exactly what to say and made me feel so special and great, yet meeting him in person, was a total let down...hahahaha !

[happynow]

Somehow I still have the feeling that he will be back one day -

True,

I have the same feeling!!! I didn't realize that your H was in the same country as mine is. You know I've read on here so many people saying that their H's said they put others before them. Mine said that I put the dogs, my church & my parents before him. I hope they will come out of this MLC one of these days.

Hang in there, you seem to be doing well!

((((HUGS)))

[Truelove]

Hi Cinders,
Nice of you to pop round.

Hi nlt,

Thanks for checking in on me. My H is not in the same country as yours just in the same area.

Last time when H mentioned that he finds it hard to forgive me for taking my share of the property sale I answered with "I am sorry you feel this way about me." Today I received his answer to my e-mail of the other day and at the end H put: "On the question of the property, you have somewhere to live, ever thought that I might need a home too?"

I did not ask him any question about the property! H seems to want to blame ME that he sold his home and with a loss on top of it. I have the feeling he is getting worse and even crazier, and today I really gave up hope of him ever coming back. He is still so angry about me taking my share of the property proceeds and it has almost been a year since he found out that he has to give me my share. If he has not forgiven me by now he never will.

I got really annoyed at the above. He is pushing my buttons again and I cannot cope with it very well. He wants me to feel guilty and he is succeeding. I went out for some retail therapy but had to think of H's e-mail all the time.

I thought of replying "Please stop blaming me for YOUR decisions". What do you think? Or should I just ignore it and go dark again? I still need an answer from H re a business matter but afterwards there will be no reason to contact him unless it has to do with the D.

I would appreciate your advice.

[Cinderellaman]

He's being passive agressive. Ignore him. I think that usually works best.

Take care sweety !!! xxx

[glamgirl]

TL as you know my h is still blaming me, going on 3 years. Do I think they are capable of letting go and forgiving, yes but we don't know what that time frame is. Different for all.

I know that everytime I responded to my h's nonsense it was worse. He didn't get it, didn't want to listen, didn't have a clue, so I wouldn't waste my breath. Now I just try to smile and nod. Works like a charm. In your case just smile and nod at the e-mail. No response needed and then let him contact you next unless you absolutely have too.

Enjoy your weekend!

[Truelove]

Hi Cinders and glamgirl,

Thank you for your advice. Although I had to send H an e-mail I ignored his comment.

I met my GF in the place she lives and we had a nice evening. We went to a hotel for dinner. Unfortunately, nobody was there but we still enjoyed it.

Tomorrow is supposed to be a lovely and warmer day and I will go for a walk on the waterfront.

[Cinderellaman]

HI True, hope you have a wonderful day at the waterfront !!! Take care xxx

[happynow]

Hi True,

I'm sorry you are having to deal with you H being so angry. I guess mine is also, I know he didn't want to give me the house or alimony.

Thank you for posting on my thread. As you can see I got another email that I will ignore.

((((HUGS)))