Sara, I think God lead me to your post today. I, like you, thought love was a feeling, emotion, swept away -- all those romantic stories you watch at the movies.
Yes it starts with attraction, but as we know that fades in the everyday life. My C also told me love was a choice. I was doubtful.

Then I really thought about it and there were many times in my M that not only did I not love my H but couldn't stand him! But then I would think about it and "choose" to love him again.

We got in a rut and now my H choses the OW. He is in "love" and has filed D papers last month. This is not my choice but H does not want to work on the M.

I would love to read about your journey, since we both had long term M and your H changed his mind? How. Can you send me the link.

I do feel committed to this M but I stand alone. Thanks for starting this thread.

Me 53
H 50
D16, D29
M 22 years
bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H
8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also
bomb II - H moves 10/1
expose ow 10/22
D to be final 9-09