Hey Jef... wow... well done. Gosh, so that makes it more concrete. How are you feeling? You sound quite relieved, reading between the lines.... What did your two sons say, where they concerned about you? Just not shocked I guess.
Good luck later and its great you are taking all your sons skiing, the fact you will be out and about having a normal day might make it easier on them as you arent in a mess.. but it occurred to me that it mught be healthy for them and their own future R's if you did show a little emotion, sadness, tears, at the end of your M??? I dont know, but showing no emotion might make them think they cant either... (you may have shown them some sadness, I dont know).
I say all this, cos when I was 8, my Uncle left my 8 months pregnannt auntie for an OW... and the adults all put on a mask to me and my sister when they told us and acted like it was fine and I remembered thinking, but thats not fine, thats sad and upsetting and I dont feel happy about it.. but I flet like I couldnt show any emotion over it as noone else was!
So, just a thought.. might not be relevant, but good luck with the little ones...
I'm doing ok. You read between the lines quite well, I am relieved. (Well done on that, I read it again, and didn't even see it!) Not looking forward to tonight even a little though!
The older two didn't say a lot. They wanted to know a bit about practical stuff, like who is living where. I could almost hear them saying "What took so long?" I think they might be relieved too, in a way. I'm sure we will talk more, over time.
I understand what you are saying about the emotion. I expect that there will be more with the little(er) guys. It's a tricky one. I have to think about that some more.
hey my friend, been thinking about you. enjoy the time with your sons skiing, and I will be praying for you today. hugs
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
No doubt today may be the hardest in your life. I was 12 when my mom told me that my dad moved out. It's such a difficult age anyways, and the news was really hard on me and my 14yr old sister. Your older kids may not have been surprised, but don't count on that with the younger ones. My then-24yr old brother wasn't surprised about my parents, but my sister and I were. I don't think younger kids really notice those things. They don't sense tension the way others do and they don't analyze things either. I know it sounds silly, but make sure they know it's not their fault. I don't know if you're a family that openly says "I love you" to your kids. If not, do it now. Tell them you love them. Then, say it again.
I'll be praying for you.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
I,m glad it went ok with the older ones, yes I would think they did think "what took you so long". It is initially the practicalities that concern them and your right more will come in dribs and drabs. I guess they just want both of you to be happy and can see that is not happening whils you are together. I think the little ones could suprise you too with a philosophical outlook and also be more concerned with practicalities. Wishing you well. I know you will handle it with love and honesty.
((((((BG)))))) We are all praying for you. Take care of yourself, and get well!
(((((bug))))) Telling the kids (especially the younger two) that I love them is a very regular occurance. They know that. Tonight still scares me!
(((((naej)))))
Well, the good news is that even without waiting for results, it appears that W's testing gave good news. The down side is that the pain she has may be something she needs to figure out how to manage, the upside is it sounds like it is not anything more serious.
The appraiser came to the house today, one more step on the road out of the way.
