I have to agree. My son having bad grades and acting up in school, how could that ever relate back to my H since they live with me 90% of the time?? Well effects of divorce and the feelings that are caused don't always conveniently show themselves. they are upset because they are. Perhaps your STBXW is very strict or just won't hear of them crying, so that all the frustration comes out when they are with you.

My s13 won't discuss his anger, frustration and disappointment with his Dad. His Dad talks down to him and says what he says goes so he feels that it won't do any good to voice his opinion anyway. I don't think you do that. The way you talk about them shows what a great parent you are. Don't ever doubt that.

I do think it would help to go to a C. They could get so much out that way instead of at school. and by the way , what 4 year old wouldn't choose grandma's(despite how evil in this case) over school? Cut yourself some slack.

hugs,
Kat

Me-53(and learning!)
S24, S21, D18, D17
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