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[karen43]

I had the afterschool thing today and a social at my church tonight. I was on the committee to help out so helped out all night and it was super successful with lots of people so it was great. One of the women was complaining about how tired she was b/c their part-time office help didn't show up that day. I said well if you're looking for someone part-time? Then her H comes up to me later and asked me if I wanted to work for them part-time for the next few months, said he hadn't talked to his W, but just had decided to hire me I guess! So I'm going to call him tomorrow.

Then a few minutes after that, the vet from my church whose office was hiring last week (and I didn't get it) came up to me & said she had told him to hire me (I hadn't even told her I had applied but you know how small towns are!) but she said she shouldn't have done that b/c he always does the opposite. She told me he is really negative--he's my total opposite so I'm thinking maybe my positiveness prob. turned him off. I had even put I'm a positive person in my cover letter, but at least I didn't do any of my smiley faces.

She said she is going to try to get me a job the next time they need an opening and she apologized to me. She is really sweet! So anyway, this is all within about 10 minutes. I'm just thinking I really think someone is watching out for me you know. I think that's why I feel optimistic even after this time, I just know everything is going to work out for the best for me and everyone else here too! Karen

[kat727]

Something awesome did happen, especially if that job works out! I am so happy for you. I am sure you are going to do a great job. Let us know what happens.

kat

[Yoyowife]

Woohoo! Karen, that's great news! I'm sending you a high-five and a hug!

[PositivelyMommy]

Karen, that is AWESOME! So happy for you to get the job. I hope it works out well and you really enjoy your new position!

[karen43]

S15 is going to do the 30-hour famine some of the churches are doing this weekend and at ours. So changed H's night to Saturday night with the kids instead of the usual Friday night (with his agreement of course). D9 was disappointed and for some reason I said well why don't you talk to him about it? She called him and he said he'd have to think about it. I thought he'd be happy to have the extra night with her, but apparently not. I guess he has a date or something. I guess OW might be mad if he cancels on her or something. I'm just kind of disgusted with him. He's just a lot different than me now. In future I'll just email him I think so that doesn't happen. Karen

[kat727]

Funny that this is the same man that said he wanted full(or was it1/2)custody? What was he ever thinking? Don't worry about him. Your kids already know that he is alittle coo-coo for cocoa puffs anyway. So how did the conversation with the office couple go? Do you have the job for sure?

We will have to talk soon just to catch up.

kat

[karen43]

I can't believe I was ever worried about him taking full custody. That was a waste of worry. He emailed me back an email after D9's phone call saying he wants to just communicate via email as the C suggested when she met with him 2 weeks ago. Um, did she mean if Jamie wants to spend the night with him she shouldn't be able to call and ask him? He said basically since I put him on the spot with D9's call that he will take her Friday night (what an awesome dad huh?) and then drop her off Saturday at lunch. So he's not going to even have S15 for one night this week. And then pick up the kids Sunday for church .

Um, apparently he sounds pretty po'd I'm looking like I'm trying to cut into his dating time with OW!!! I emailed him back, I agree I'll just email in the future and it worked out good b/c S15 is going to be gone Friday night and so am I b/c I got a part in the sound of the music!!! (I didn't smiley face him though of course!) I'm in the chorus but should still be a lot of fun! Most of my theatre friends have a part too. Unfortunately, D9 didn't get a part, but I'll be able to take her some nights prob. and she can still play with the kids. And we can paint sets and maybe I can get her an understudy part or something hopefully.

I called the guy from my church today when I got back from the dentist and the office person answered and took my msg. and said he was out of the office. He never called back and he doesn't seem the type unless he had an emergency or something. If I don't hear back (maybe he didn't get the message???--I left it with the girl that didn't show up yesterday you know) so was thinking if he doesn't call me back I should call back tomorrow afternoon. I don't want to be stalkerish, but not seem lax either? And D9 has the flu today, hoping it's 24 hour!!! Karen

[NoCodeBlues]

Congrats on the part, Karen!

And I hope D9 gets to feeling better real soon.

Hugs and blessings.

[karen43]

I started the am with 4 emails from H. Each one complained about my parenting. I haven't set D9 for tooth cleaning yet. (They will only set 2 at a time, so S15 who needs it the most and I set myself b/c trying to get it done before the D.) I told him I would set her the second they will let me (after our cleanings next month). Another email complaining about the dynamic of having D9 call him (I've done that maybe 2 or 3 times in the past year) and I said I agree, will just email in the future and he wants to start taking the kids overnight on Tuesday in his new apt. and then bring them back at lunch. I emailed back I'm sure they'll enjoy that. He sent another email complaining I haven't had S15's teeth pulled/cavities filled. The dentist told me after he got the cleaning they would refer him to a specialist to do that. I just emailed H back that info. He sent another email complaining I haven't told him about appts. for the kids which I didn't reply to b/c I have told him about all of them. The one I set yesterday I emailed this am as I planned to do. So I didn't reply to that email. Am I a horrible parent or is my H crazy or what do you think?????? He added at the end of one of them: As concerned as i was before this raises it to a whole new level.
Karen

[SueS]

CRAZY! That's my answer.

Hi Karen! Typical H. It irritates the crap out of me that he leaves you and the kids for another woman and has the absolute ball$ to ridicule your parenting. Oh, wasn't he the one that left for vacation and didn't return calls when a tree hit during a storm or to make sure you and the kids were okay? I am thinking of you right? You are doing a great job. You're following the procedures of the dentists office. What the hell else does he want. I'm sure you notified him of everything.

AND, for him to be angry that you had D9 call? Why can't his own daughter call to see if it's okay? That makes no sense to me. He's a selfish a$$.

You keep up the great job that you're doing. Congrats on the part and I hope that the job comes through.

Hugs to you Karen.

-SueS