LBS need help and support #2

[lemonsnap]

Hi Song,
I'm sorry you're feeling down today.
It happens to all of us.

((((hugs)))

Question for you -
I reviewed your goals, and most of them seem to be tied in some way to your relationship.
Is there anything you have planned or would like to do that's completely and only for you? I just found a really neat class I'd like to take that has NOTHING to do with anyone but me. I know I'll get something out of it, and it's also on a Sunday afternoon when I usually have down time. Bonus!

I went through a phase of trying to read everything I could get my hands on relating to relationships, self help books, etc. I think they're good in moderation, but it can certainly become overwhelming. We've already got a lot to process. I know I've been looking to those sources with thoe hopes of understanding what went on and why this is happening. I still try to do that too much. But I'm beginning to see that I may NEVER understand. I have to begin to let go of the whys.

Grieving is a very complicated process. People do it in many different ways, on their own timelines. We're all grieving here - the loss of what once was, etc. I think it's OK to grieve what was, because even if two people that have gone through something like this do reconcile, it's not ever going to be the same relationship. I don't think we'd want it to be. It might be wonderful, but it will be different.

Hang in there.