Well, you're not likely to have good thoughts and create a nest for a handsome man you met that was rude to you, or insulted you, or totally ignored you. It's kind of hard to see the old man as the new man when you have years of hurt lying between you, that they think should vanish with the sweep of a magic wand.
Right, no. Magic wand won't do. However, the Retrouvaille weekend is not a magic wand. It is a deeply involving 46 hour experience of honesty and openness and forgiveness. Re-opening one's heart is difficult. But I experienced it after the Retrouvaille weekend and after a few weeks of Post sessions. This experience gave me enough confidence to be willing to trust again. And this was difficult for me. But I understood all the ramifications of making the choice and not making the choice. Note that I did not say that I was willing to "try to trust again". That was one of the ramifications. There is no trying, there is doing or not doing.
