A lot of people do have trouble with the idea that love is a decision. I understand it for myself as the person creates a favorable environment for love to blossom as a feeling in his heart and mind.
That's been an annoying part of my situation. My wife just this past weekend told me she knows that love is a choice. She just can't make that choice as she's been hurt so often that she can't see herself being vulnerable to me again.
Your comments on focusing on the negatives is oh so true. Everytime I try to talk about positive moments, recent or in the past, she always finds a negative to latch onto and drive into my heart. This is where it's getting old as in counseling last year I tried to bring up how negative she had gotten. IT DID NOT GO OVER WELL......
So...was bringing up her negativity..positive..or negative? ;P
Maybe she thinks when you "try to talk about" positive moments...you are trying to plead your case (pursuing)...so she finds a negative. (But she's driving it into your heart? Really?)
