Yesterday was the 2 year anniversary of the bomb and my H leaving. So much has changed and yet some things have stayed the same...
My H came over for a few hours last night. I couldn't help but bring up the date. I think the discussion went well and was somewhat enlightening. I asked what is it going to take for things to change. My H talked about his anxiety and feeling like he has no control in his life. My H continues to admit that he is no longer angry at me...however he is now angry at his business partner. At one point in the conversation he said that maybe it will take me kicking him to the curb in order for him to straighten himself out...later he said he was only kidding about that. He said that he does not feel very much pleasure in his life right now. We discussed whether or not he is depressed and I showed him the signs of depression listed in Jim Conway's book Men in Midlife Crisis. He went through the list and said he only had 3 of the symptoms and that the book says that you need to get help if you have 4. I told him that I wasn't sure he only had 3. Then I showed him the stages...he skimmed through them making some comment about being in depression and withdrawl...maybe nearing acceptance. I offered the book to him but he didn't want it. He says he thinks maybe he should go talk to our C alone. I told him that was a good idea. We he left, he gave me lots of kisses and hugs...he even thanked me several for being so sweet.
I wonder if he will ever be able to figure out his issues and put them behind him...it does seem like he is at least willing to acknowledge that he has issues...BUT will he ever do the work???
