Hey Regrets that was very good not saying, the "You never came swimming with me before". I know it is hard not to, but one thing I have always tried to remember, Would you rather be right or be married? Try not to argue on issues that really aren't that important.
Kel will give you very good advice, as she has given me! 1Hope is also great with advice and has been dealing with her H's alien sightings for a while now.
I like you and your H are in my first marriage, and my H's 2nd. We don't have any kids ourselves, H had one from D his first marriage, who lived with us. We do have two dogs that are like kids.
Remember you did not cause this, don't blame yourself. You are on the right track with the PMA. Sometimes it is hard, but it always will get you to a better place.
This does take time, we would all love for it to be over and we would be back to the wonderful prebomb life, but it doesn't work that way. My friends here have helped me the most, including Kel, 1Hope and Babygirl. My RL friends have also been very supportive, but it is hard for them to understand why I won't leave since my H is having an affair, but it isn't that simple. They have adjusted and support me in what ever I am doing at that moment. I feel better talking to certain friends than my family.
I do agree with Kel on the family issues, I didn't tell my parents anything for about a month after the bomb, and then I didn't give any details. They mean well, but I don't want to hear every time I see them, How are things? are there any changes? My mom still asks periodically, but I think she has figured out that if something changes hugely I will let them know. I know she wants to be more involved, but I am not wanting any more involvement than already happening.
You just have to take it slow and be ready for anything. Go out with your friends, you said you had lots of them, that is good getting out and being with friends is a great way to spend any extra time. I have become better friends with my friends, then I ever was before.
I don't have much in the way of new advice, as I am still figuring everything out, but we are all here to listen, and you can vent here all you would like. Just remember you are not alone.
