It's natural for you to take those "honey"s and hold onto them. She IS your wife and naturally you're looking for a connection, for a glimmer. Honestly, "honey" has slipped out of my mouth when I knew h didn't want it, but NOT 3 TIMES in one conversation. Last week h left a message on my phone for me to have the kids call him, but he was on his way to a call, so he may not be able to talk to them. At the end of his message...he said "bye". I SAVED that message on my phone because of that "bye". Lately, he says what he needs to and hangs up the phone when he's done. Even if he's talking to me and not my voice mail. So I really liked the "bye". I thought "See.There's his soft side."
It's just where we are in things Marcum. You and me both, we're still hoping beyong hope that something is still in them. And I truly believe it is. For both of us. It's just a matter of whether or not they are willing to look at it and acknowlege it. It's painful, and truthfully they may avoid it for as long as time. It's nothing we can do or say or convince them of. We are only in control of ourselves. Take care.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
