{{{Kassie}}} sounds like you were really strong on that yesterday and sounds like he "said the right things" but yet you sensed that it wasn't "quite" what you were looking for, so good for you by not being moved by the words and really waiting for actions.
Now I can't answer for Pearl..but for me, I did come here with the intention of wanting my marriage saved, but, as I've gone on with this and hub has continued on his path, I've really taken a hard look at it and realized that we were really never that happy, at least nowhere near as much as we were unhappy with constantly fighting and things like that.
Of course every situation is different, but, as I've said before, the really AMAZING thing about this site to me is that everyone comes out of this sitch so much stronger, happier, and healthier and different whether their marriages are saved or not, because they save THEMSELVES!
Tawnya
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