You're so right. He came home at lunch time for some banking stuff and I was very upbeat oh hello etc. He sent a text to ask if I was coming home for dinner and I just said no but I could pick him up something. We also have a lot of building work going on and just been told that they now need to rip out the kitchen. These are the type of things that stress him so I sent a text saying the surveyor was going to call him and what it was about. I said know you have enough on your plate right now but it will be fine and sooner sorted the better.
My thinking here was that it would be tomorrow before I could have told him about it as I'm out tonight and I used to always tell him things would work out before re stuff like that. He' very much why doe this all happen to me person. I felt that I wasn't chasing, just showing that:-
1 I wasn't going to start getting stressed about the house the way I did when we first moved here therefore, intead of supporting him, adding to the stress
2. Taking a wee bit of control and putting things in perspective.
I'm going to fight for the marriage and use the precious time I have to make big improvements. I'm not going to be a doormat, He can do as he pleases this weekend and then, once we have been to counselling, I'll calmly try set up some boundaries/actions so that we're both comfortable with each other.
