She feels the burden of rescuing her family all the time. She carried that over to me. I am a survivor of a very broken family, institutions and foster care.
When I fell apart she took care of me. I took advantage of that. Though I wanted to be her hero, I just could not break my dependence on her and "man up".
Wow! You revealed allot in that last post. Your asking this board for advice? You seem to already have a pretty good handle on this issue.
Not many Woman are going to be romantically attracted to a Man they feel like a Mother to. She needs to know she can lean on you to. She may even have a desire to follow at times. At the very least, she wants to walk side by side with an equal. I really do think she desires you to be that type. She's telling you that, but as you admit yourself, your not there. I don't justify her behavior, but I think her demands from you are valid.
Go where you can find steady work (hard in these times), be comfortable/content in your own skin. Change like this doesn't come in a short period of time. Your lucky at this point not to have kids. You have an opportunity to really reconcile your own personal past and move into a healthier relationship. Not only do I think you can attract her back to you, but I think you can discover strength in yourself you didn't know you had.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
