You know what? I never really thought about it until you just posted your response. It isn't against women it's just that all my relationship experience is with women. And everytime I have heard that it is followed up with something devastating
The good talks always came after "do you have time to talk' or 'can we talk about something".
and I guess if I really analyze this which I never had until your post... so thank you... the first two are orders or commands. You aren't really being asked to talk you are being told that someone is going to tell you something. Bad news is coming!
When I really try to think this one over, the times I have seen this coming from a guy would be a supervisor I had once that had a grudge with me and he would start off with "I need to see you" or "I need to talk to you". These were going to be followed up with some correction of me. But once again if you notice I didn't have a choice, the conversation was going to take place... Bad news!
So I would say if you really just want to communicate and clear the air - I vote for "can we talk about this" or do you have time to talk abou tsomehting" it takes all the apprehension ou to it.
