not allowed to attempt a reconciliation????? Please Kev....you sign the weirdest things...as if that's enforceable. Why not sign something promising you won't like her, or you will like her, but you'll keep it a big secret?
Anyhow, fine. I'd be SO committed to not EVER wanting a reconciliation (as far as she knows) and to not ever needing her, she'd wonder what the heck she did.
Let her go. You have no control anyhow. So why not? Move along and yes, I can understand the feelings about Dallas, but instead of that, try focusing on how much you love your kids. And their stability etc. And good luck in Florida, and you know if your wife goes totally over the edge, maybe you'll get the kids and you can take them to Florida yourself.
It's interesting that she has to put in a clause saying you won't try to get back together. Why can't you do what you want and why can't she just say "no" if and when that happens? What is she afraid of? Caving in? Oh. I see. Well, I doubt it's enforceable and have never seen a "Document" like yours so that's all I can say.
If you feel better about things, good. Some of it just doesn't matter much. Like giving her 10 months or 10 years. Frankly, I wonder how she'll handle things when 1) things with OM run their course and THEY WILL run their course**, and 2) when she begins to wonder about your life and you are GAL so she will wonder... please let her see some mystery in your posts. Like going places "with friends" and say nothing specific to your wife. Who is she to ask where you went? Please....
**unless you force them to stay together by attacking her choices. The more she feels attacked the more she'll feel defensive, and then will justify her choices and make herself "right" by staying with OM longer than she should. So, let her go. Leave her alone. Let their A run so hot it burns itself out. Hopefully they won't burn too many others along the way. At least you are a strong man. God help the OM"s kids...and his wife.
keep on keeping on Kev, you are going to make it. Detach, GAL, do the 180's and btw, I LOVE the things you are planning on doing for yourself in Florida. And Lent may begin tomorrow (I'm giving up crack cocaine and child abuse...yes, I'm kidding...) but your dad is allowed to have a good time. What'd he do, give up fun?
ttys buddy, hang in there, (( j ))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
