I have been physically separated from my H for about a month now, and I can tell you that for the first time since the bomb back in October I finally feel some peace.
It will really give you a chance to reflect on the sitch, but also gives you a unique opportunity to discover yourself. I dont like when I am here alone so I find myself making more plans. I started volunteering in my spare time, and picking up some hobbies that I stopped doing. I dont stop breathing every time I come home now like I used to. It is nice to have your own space. It is hard in the beginning but like everything else, with time it becomes easier.
For me I took another Db'ers advice in removing all pictures and all of H's things. That helped alot! Even seeing a sock of his in the laundry made me upset, but now I could care less.
I am happy to report that since S, H and I have been getting along just as good (if not better) then when we first met. Not that I am sure its going to lead to reconciliation, but things just seem to calm down. That is my perspective and I hope you find it ends up that way too.
