Sandi2, You wouldn't know this but most of us do live separately. Only a couple have kids and the rules encourage contact for the kids.
I have been trying for 3 years to get tx for my H's problems. Living separately was my initial last resort and it wasn't working - going dark has him in tx x2 after one month.
When he turned that corner I started contact again and he went south again. I returned to dark and he is doing well. Just needs more time.
By the way everyone, he called for the last two days. I didn't respond. The first time it was to ask for time to talk. While I was deciding NO, the second message came cancelling the talk. He said he realized that unless there was something new to say there wasn't any point. But I could initiate a talk whenever.
I saw him today about the insurance bill, I told him that I agreed with the second call. He tried to talk to me then but I just listened briefly and reminded him that I needed to go. You can read the details on my thread.
He seems to be really struggling with this. Today I didn't. I was relieved when I heard the second message. And there's more to read on my thread.
