RE-POST HUSBAND NO LONGER LOVES ME

[PositivelyMommy]

Regrets, your may say that you have forgiven your mom but I sense that there are major issues there and you are trying to brush it under the rug so you don't feel the pain of her betrayal. Yes, she betrayed your trust. I am not saying that you should not forgive her, but I think you need to have a real heart to heart and process your feelings about her and then to truly forgive her. Otherwise, this will be another point of contention in your R with her later on down the road.

But on another note, I think it's much better that everyone knows. You are under tremendous stress. To also keep a secret from others will put you under even MORE stress. One way of looking after yourself now is to simplify your life and destress. If everyone knows, then you don't have to put in so much effort to make everything seem perfect. I know, it's hard to be vulnerable in front of so many of your loved ones. It's a scary thing but if they truly love you, they will not turn away from you in your time of need, in fact, they will embrace and comfort you. So why put in so much effort to put up a front? I know you are trying to protect your H, I did exactly the same thing, it took me three weeks to get my courage up to talk with my Dad. But later on I found that I was not only trying to protect my H but also myself. It's misguided though. If they love you, your family would want you to find happiness, they would support you so don't worry about 'exposing' the unplesantness of your M. It's OK, take a chance, give your family the benefit of the doubt and a chance to show their support for you. BTW, just a guess, are you afraid that they won't support you and condemn you instead? If that is the case you know who has your best interest at heart and who doesn't.

It is good that your H still texts you but this is a sensitive time in your M, you need to stop all pursuing behavior. Stop the begging etc. If he texts you, great, respond but try not to give him the impression that you are chasing him because he will want to run away emotionally if not physically as well.