Yup the money thing sort of clinches it doesn't it? What a strange strange disorder or disease or whatever. I was fairly certain but a few counsellors managed to put doubt in my mind and then I start turning it back to myself and what I might have done to drive him away.
They both said there is no such thing as a MLC and that he was always this way but it became exaggerated when he suddenly started making more money that he ever thought possible. I believe the change in his status contributed, but I am no idiot and KNOW I was not married to the person he is now.
He is now living in government assisted housing after moving in with the woman with whom he was having an affair.
Does your h remember saying those things to you when he was in the middle of the MLC? I hear they forget or block out the nasty things that they said. My h always had a terrible memory anyway so I know I will never get an apology, even if he does recover.
I commend you for being able to put this behind you and save your marriage. It's funny but I would have been able to get past the affair but I will never get past the lapdances and the lies and the lies and the lies.
I already have a queen and will get another one for the new place. It has two bedrooms and I want a new bed for myself that h has never been in. One of the cats insists on using me as his pillow and gets mad if I shove him off so maybe a king would not have mattered. Unfortunately he is a cute as a button and gets away with murder.
Every month during the separation I learned new, very painful, information and when he finally admitted to the affair this past Jan, I dropped to 119. Not pretty. Had to buy a bunch of size 0-2 pants!
We sold the house about three weeks after we separated and I moved out last Sept. I threw h out at the beginning of June. I didn't want to stay there and we had only moved in the fall before so it was not yet "home." Luckily we sold just before the financial crisis began and while prices have not dropped a lot in Canada, we made money because of the timing. I had started on a beautiful wildflower type garden and will miss that.
I moved into an apartment while I tried to get my bearings and as luck would have it, h moved in with OW about a block away from me a few weeks later. She already lived there. In a city this size, it was quite the shock when I saw him going into that place one night when I was on my way home and knew immediately that he was living with someone.
I bought the condo at the beginning of Jan and although I am glad to have something, I am not enthusiastic about it if you know what I mean. The cats are strictly indoor and they adjust very quickly so I am not worried.
