Better not make her mad. I mean, what will she do if you piss her off? Will she leave you? OH WAIT A MINUTE, SHE ALREADY IS LEAVING....
Stop being frightened b/c the worst is already happening, EXCEPT you stopped the ultimate screw job by seeing a L and protecting your rights as a father. Over time, she'll see you for the man you are, and that is NOT a tactic to get her back, it's about being a good dad. That's enough.
As for breaking promises and not trusting, how do you keep a straight face? I'd ask her whether she wants to be the pot or the kettle b/c they're both black and she has NO room to talk about trust and promises....how about VOWS???
Oh, and too bad you didn't know you'd want to be a participating father when you slept with her Sat night. Too bad you didn't know she was trying to screw you in two ways...now that you know, tell her YOU won't let it happen again....
I'm disgusted by her behavior but trying hard not to judge. You know the other her, and we just have to believe that she'll resurface. But you are NOT helping by arguing, reasoning and pursuing. I should know. I have persuaded juries to see things my way for years but I could NOT reach my h when he was in his MLC and he just could not hear me. Doesn't matter about the logic, and the multiple reasons. He is only NOW getting that d19 is upset with him and that it is HIS fault....he is facing consequences of the collateral damage his choices cost others and I truly feel sorry for him. I love the guy but would not trade places with him for anything. He has to do some serious damage control and reparations with his kids, especially d's.
Your w needs so much time and space. So much damage is being done to so many people, she'll have to face it someday and you don't have to help it along at all (by telling OM's family...please, let that poor woman who is married to him have her last scrap of dignity awhile longer) and as for you and your wife--
Back off and don't make it harder than it already will be for her to come back. Stop engaging. Stop pursuing. Just calmly CALMLY assert yourself as a man/father and otherwise let her go. As for her family's support, consider the source.
Good luck buddy, hang in there! (( j ))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
