Yes, that is what has me thinking....that her steps don't include you.....
Have you asked her that very question? She can do all the things she wants/needs to do in your house. You ARE still married.....Is there anyway she would consider coming back? Can you get her to understand that her healing doesn't have to be done living like she isn't married? I'm worried she is staying in contact with OM. If she feels she can heal and stay in contact with OM,...it won't happen for a long time, if ever.
What are her feelings on marriage and committment? God?