HORRID ! Help ! Forgive me Lord !

[tpaschal]

Cinders,

I think most of the female LBS's certainly understand the need for affirmation---the need to feel like a desirable woman again, the need to be wanted. I also understand wanting to break out of the "mom mode" for a while.

My biggest concern is that you need to take your time. I know your marriage hasn't been a real one for a long time, but you are just getting back into the dating arena. Don't rush it! Be careful, and stay safe.


About the guy, you said:

And about him being a player...I'm sorry, but he's not. I've seen where he lives, I know how hard he works and where and how many hours he has to put in it to earn a living. This guy WORKS to survive...he is by no means a player.

As for whether or not this particular guy is a player, who knows? But for players in general, I don't think money has anything to do with it. Over the past year of going out with my single friends, I've met plenty of players---some rich and some dirt poor. Maybe some worked harder than others, but they all had jobs, from architect to air condition repairman to mailman to auto mechanic.

To me, a player is a guy who tells a woman whatever she needs to hear to get her into bed. Maybe for some guys it is a game, but I bet most players probably don't even consider themselves players! I know some players who tell themselves they really are looking for the right woman to settle down with and just haven't found her yet, so why not have all the fun they can get in the meantime? But they never seem to take the time to see if she could be "Mrs. Right" or not!

I just recently heard about a book---can't remember the title for sure---I think it's something like "Act Like a Woman, Think Like a Man." I haven't read it yet, but evidently it talks about dating pitfalls and how to know what guys are thinking. The author says that women possess the greatest bargaining tool and incentive package known to man, and we shouldn't give it up so easily. Hmm...before I go any further in the dating arena, I think I need to read that book! LOL!

Cinders---hugs to you.