Que Sera, Sera - Whatever Will Be, Will Be

[lemonsnap]

For those who have already gone through a separation, I've got some questions. I haven't made a decision yet, but would appreciate your advice and feedback.

My H will be moving out sometime soon - he's got some apartments in mind and will leave as soon as one opens up.

What did you do regarding practical matters of separating?

H doesn't plan to take any furniture. I feel like he wants a clean start.

We share 1 car. I feel like I should keep the car. He thinks we can trade it off every once in a while so that he can run errands, etc. Practically, that makes sense (try grocery shopping for a week or two with a bike or on the bus), although I feel like since he's the one leaving, he shouldn't get to use these things that belong to "us."

Same goes for the computer.

Toaster...

I'll let him have the espresso machine because I've stopped drinking coffee.

How did you deal with this?

When I brought it up briefly (as a practical matter) once, H reacted to the questions as if I were more interested in the material items than in our R. I assured him it had nothing to do with $ or stuff, but was just so that I could plan ahead and know what to expect.

We haven't discussed it at all since. Given his first reaction, I hesitate to make a big deal out of it because he's probably expecting me to be controlling.

I would appreciate hearing your personal experiences with this!

Thanks.