Punkt is giving you some pretty amazing advice as is Grace, and while I do not know Still the advice is rock solid.
You should listen to it, especially about blame and pressure.
Yes your an amazingly good man, strong and courageous, and she is weak and wanting...thats a good attitude to have around her...superior. Let us know how that turns out.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK