So I found this dare to be the hardest so far. Not that I was worried about what my wife would say. It was finding the right time to approach her. I ended up sending and E- mail. If I did not get an answer I was just going to go on to day 6. Well I received a reply:
I don't know why this matters. I can think of several things that irritate me about a lot of people, including myself. It doesn't mean I think less of them or don't want to be around them. And it depends on my mood how I'm affected by the particular characteristic.
If you must have an answer, then 1. Getting emails like this 2. Talking in a condescending way 3. Making small talk when I'm busy or in my space
So what I found was that was not an "attack" on me. She did give me some info on what bothers her about me, but what I have read into this (especially the first part) is that she recognizes that she has problems with everyone INCLUDING herself.
It was hard not justifying numbers #2. I don't feel I am making "small talk" when I talk to her. I am truly interested in what she is doing. And for the first part I wanted to say that this was not about HER, It is about me trying to become a better person.........but instead I Just replied "thanks"
So now I can move on with Dare 6. I do feel like I am back on track now.
Now I need to find out what I say to her that she feels is "condescending". Does she feel I do this to everyone? Or just her. I am not going to worry about it right now. I am going to just keep track on how I approach things when I say things. I have been trying to do this anyway and I may have already taken care of this issue but I do not know. Even though I do feel that when I "talked" to her when she was in her office it was not "small talk" but a true interest in what she was doing I will try not to "disturb her".
Later Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
