Well my DB coach says there are things about him and his actions that are MLC-ish. But she also said he's not 100% an MLCer. So, I can't put him in just one category and attack the divorce from a specific angle.
Here's the latest drama: I found out he bought his ex-OW a pair of $100 earring for Christmas. (My husband has a very public job, he’s a tv broadcaster and so was I. Some random woman who works at my favorite store for jewelry taps me while I’m waiting for my lunch at a little restaurant and tells me I’m a lucky lady. She works at the store I like and she saw what my husband got me for Christmas….beautiful earrings. What are the freaking chances of finding out that way? I tried to laugh about it later on.) And the problem is: He didn’t give me anything for Christmas. I asked him about it. He said How do you know I didn’t get them for you and never gave them to you? How do you know I wasn’t helping someone else because they couldn’t afford it? What if….how do you know? I told him I was going to let it go. It just caught me off guard, the way I found out and I was very upset, but letting it go. I haven’t brought it up since, but it really upset me and I find myself thinking about it. I asked “Does she have the earrings?” He said no and that “you’re going to feel stupid when this all plays out.”
Honestly, I hope I do.
I hope with this particular incident he can tell I’ve grown and really benefitted from GAL and the therapy. Me about 6 months ago would have had an outrageous fit.
On the bright side, during our "disagreement" yesterday, where there was no yelling on my side, a little bit on his he never said "It doesn't matter because we're done" which was one of his favorites not that long ago. So, I hope that is some progress there.
Now I'm working hard to not mention this again and really let it go. It does hurt quite a bit though. Suggestions?
