Hi CIW, the only thing I want to say about what you said about your wife going out to the nightclub is that sometimes couples fall into a "game" (if you will) of trying to outdo one another. Set your standards of what you will or will not do as far as you going out and GAL. Just b/c she did this, don't try to "out do her" by doing something bigger or worse. You know what I mean? Couples get into this thing of trying to make each other jealous and it creates a much, much bigger problem. I believe you are mature enough to know that, but your wife is very young and you may have to see or hear of her doing things that will upset you. However, just continue your standards of what getting a life may be and don't try to see if you can beat her at her game b/c that will not get the two of you together. I know I sound "preachy" but I think the nightclub scenes are nothing but trouble spots for married people. Ask yourself "why" does anyone go there? To party? What exactly does that mean? To drink, to look around at the opposite sex, to be seen by the opposite sex, to flirt, to dance.......in other words, it is temptation and trouble waiting to happen. I hope you will be careful about going to these types of places. I'm not trying to tell you how to live, but want to warn you of getting into a bigger mess.
Take care, Sandi
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