And another thing I was thinking....you could have a R today if you wanted!!! But gee, you're working on slowly moving into a healthy, wonderful R, with someone that's more deserving of you. Just b/c he found some skanky ho to get involved with doesn't impress me at all....
BTW, I just got done reading a book by Greg Berehendt (or something like that) It's called a breakup b/c it's broken or something like that. He and his wife wrote it and he is so funny. He used to be a writer for SATC, and I LMAO. It was kind of good for dropping the rope and just a funny read I thought. If you want me to pass mine on to you, just shoot me an email with your snail mail and I can send it. I got it used and then I paged through it a lot, but it's still in ok condition I think... Karen
Is it any wonder I adore you? You have become such a dear friend and I hate to think that I wouldn't have found you if not for our cheating H's. One thing to thank them for I suppose.
It is hard having to put the B on hold, since I was trying to work everything out to have no money as of Wednesday and now I have to hold on to every penny until I get the Fed refund. It's like hurry and go, then stop, then go. Not good for the nerves, that's for sure.
It will all work out, of that I am certain just maybe not on my timetable but the being upstairs.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
So it appears that ex somehow managed to buy the 4 year old car while he still owes me like $1000 in back maintenance. I have to believe his Mom and Dad bought it since he filed B just in November and even my L said it would take 2 to 3 years before I could even try to get the house in my name(but of course I have to wait for his B to be dismissed first).
Well life for him is obviously happy and shiny without me around. I know life will get there for me to, just hard to believe at the moment.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Sounds like he's not very independent right now. I've been there, and I didn't feel very shiny and happy at that point. It's a shame they don't let him encounter reality and consequences--I mean at his age I'm thinking he should be able to stand on his own 2 feet. It sounds kind of sad to me. Karen
I guess his other car had a bad oil leak and was basically shot. Not that I am great with my cars but he has burned out 2 engines in the past. Not doing what he is supposed to so that they keep running well. He thinks you put gas in, what else is there? He doesn't care to learn about that stuff either.
I always accepted that he was like that, though it bothered me that he wouldn't even try to learn. I mean I put our entertainment center together by myself, the vacuum cleaner, book shelves and have even replaced a dumb part on the refrigerator that has gone out on a 18 month cycle. Maybe I am not such a bad catch after all. Lucky her if she expects him to do any of that.
I just loved the idiot, now it is no more excuses.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Let me first say that I wasn't trying to snoop when I found out this next bit of information. I was on FB checking my incoming messages when my son's inbox comes up. There are several notes from his Dad trying to engage him in conversation. I looked at one(I know how terrible) that had him explaining how in the next 9 to 12 months he plans to move in with skank and he will have all this money to buy them whatever they want.(Disney Dad)
Also how he doesn't understand why s13 doesn't interact with skank. He will have to when he has them on weekends and they are living together.(barf) Of course he goes on to say how he doesn't want to force them to do anything but in the next sentence says I make the decisions when I have you.
He also tried to convince him how wonderful skank is. I don't see much of a conversation here. Kind of his same old act...this is how it is because I say so, live with it.
So I see that he hasn't changed a whole lot. Really didn't learn much except how he thinks he is opening communication. He is trying but doesn't know what to do. I have already decided that I am not helping, this is his mess. Besides I have enough to worry about.
The kids seem fine when they are with me. I try to engage them in conversations about everything under the sun, so it isn't just the gloom of his mess. I love them so much and they have all helped me so much. I will keep doing everything that I can to help get them past this. And I know they are doing all they can for me too. funny how that works.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
You DO have great kids. I'm guessing it had everything to do with their mom, too. I agree to let your ex deal with his own mess.
You know.....he may be getting a new car, going to have money soon, etc........Things may seem to be going splendidly for him....but what price will he pay, even if it is true? DOn't think for a second, that deep down, he doesn't know the truth of how things went down and how GOd sees this. He has to live with that the rest of his life. Some day he will face this. You may never know when that happens, but it will happen. It probably already has.
I looked at one(I know how terrible) that had him explaining how in the next 9 to 12 months he plans to move in with skank and he will have all this money to buy them whatever they want.(Disney Dad)
Also how he doesn't understand why s13 doesn't interact with skank. He will have to when he has them on weekends and they are living together.(barf) kat
First of all, it sounds like he's giving your son info like he's moving in with skank via FB!!!! Um, wouldn't you think he should do that in person one-on-one?? And then the Disney Dad thing--I think that's b/c they know they're screwing up and feel guilty and it makes them feel less guilty for a day or 2 when they act like disney dads.
Doesn't understand why your son doesn't want to hang out with skank? Gee, maybe b/c she's a skank and you son has morals??? Karen
Facebook? Come on now, sounds like your exH is a great communicator. Wow, that's how I always deliver my important news! Your H is a piece, since we are ladies, I won't say a piece of what!!!
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
I think he mentioned something to both boys about the possible move about a month or so ago. Still talking to your kids about living in sin with the person that broke up the family doesn't sit too well with them or me. I can't control him, he does the dumbest things.
I just have to keep myself grounded and stable while he stirs up this pot.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
