My first step out of Newcomers

[PositivelyMommy]

Hi, Kev, thanks for clearing that up. I guess I was projecting. Yes, I agree that she is moving further away from you. You have at least two choices here, I think:

1) You can talk with a DB coach, as I said before they are very specific and very good with helping you set concrete goals and concrete suggestions to achieve those goals. Their advice is invaluable and definitely worth the money.

2) You can give her space to let her decide what she wants to do. Sometimes loving someone means to truly let them go and not control them to do what you would like them to do. I am learning this lesson and finding it very difficult.

If I were you, I would call a DB Coach now, before there is a third party involved. I want to spare you the pain that I am experiencing. My M is still worth it but the pain is almost unbearable. It really tests your resolve to the M as well. But that's just my opinion. You need to do what you feel is right for you.

I have taken off my ring as well. Like I said before, it can be taken off, it can be put back on. It's the commitment which matters most to us. Symbols are just that. They are NOT the real thing.

But it seems like you still have your eye on the goal which is fantastic, Kev.