My first step out of Newcomers

[Can it work]

Thanks Saffie and PM for poiting out that I shouldn't be ashamed to express my opinions on here no matter how counter-productive I feel they may be to my sitch. I guess we all learn with every passing day.

The problem wasn't so much that my W told me she wasn't ready to go out and then went out behind my back PM. It's more that I feel she's moved on just that little bit more and unfortunately further away from me. That's what concerned me. I know that there's very little I can do about that now though. She's not even really going out behind my back either. She's left me so doesn't need to report her every movement to me any more. I know I've done the same in the last few weeks. The only difference is that I know that I don't want to be with anyone other than her right now. With her, I'm always going to wonder.

I know it's still early days in my sitch but I don't really feel like I'm making any progress with my W at all. I know that I'm doing ok in myself and I'm going to keep working on that aspect. The thing which worries me though is that MWD tells us to stop doing anything that isn't working. It really seems to me that my W is becoming more distant every day. I have so little contact with her that it's impossible for me to tell though with any conviction. Is it too early for me to say it isn't working? I don't want to keep going on as I am if I could be hindering my chances of getting her back in the future. I'm no longer getting any feedback from her parents so I have no idea what's going on. It's frustrating to say the least.

Also, rightly or wrongly, I've taken off my wedding ring. I thought that it was a symbol for her to see that she could have me back whenever she wanted which I didn't want her to think. She's not been wearing hers since a couple of days after she walked out. I do want to get to a point where I feel as though I'm making progress enough to put it back on but that seems like a distant hope at the moment. I know it sounds as though I'm changing my mind daily on how I think this is all going to turn out but that's just the way my mind seems to be working these days. I'm going away this weekend so it should give me the chance to clear my head a bit. A bit of retail therapy never hurt anyone!!