The term MLC is a bit of a misnomer. It kind of implies that these things happen at a certain time. Sometimes you hear these things referred to as a transitional life crisis, which is perhaps a better term. As you can see from others on here, you are not alone in the age of your H, and these 'problems' arising.
I know it is your H who is causing you such distress, and your H that the 'crisis' appears to be happening too, but if you are getting panic attacks perhaps you could go to your GP to get something to help you with those and so you can continue functioning and being supportive to your H.
My sitch was quite different to yours, but I had awful panic attacks, and my GP was able to give me something that really helped....it wasn't something you took all the time.....just as and when one needed it.
(((HUGS)))
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
