Your sitch always makes me think more than anyone elses. It's not that it's any more complicated, it's just that I don't want to say the wrong thing...so...
Thanks for letting us know about the Honeymoon, I'm sad for you that happened, but it certainly gives us a more balanced view of exactly where you are. (always difficult on a public board)
You are right about H bailing if comfort is provided and I think I have said that before. He needs to be in an uncomfortable place to be able to find the desire to get out of it. It's a shame that you have to put yourself through the wringer as well, but that's what we do for our loved ones.
He still needs more time, he will buck and kick more yet, the longer it goes on, the worse he will feel, UNTIL he gets to a point where he can see what he WAS like and what he HAS done. Then the screaming will stop. It may be a long time though and I pray that he doesn't give up before he gets there. Relapse is a comfy chair in a crowded room, but he needs to remain standing however much his legs ache. Don't let him lean on you though.
Your NC is having an effect, that's for sure. From here, it looks to be working. If it wasn't then there would be either a stony silence or a drunkard at your door.
You have 2 choices in reality, I think you know the one you want to take...give it more time. That may NOT be the right one in the long run, but right now, it is. So stick with it until it feels SO wrong that you have to run. Then you can reflect and decide how fast you run.
