You know, one of the principles db is based on is that ideal that it is possible to save a M if only one partner desires it. It's never really over until you say it is.
Maybe your M could be saved with some behind the scene efforts on your part. Have you read DB? My ex had an affair on me. I got the "I'm no longer in love with you" speech along with all the other BS so familiar to the LBS's on here. I stood for about a year and a half trying to save it. I employeed the principles of DB as best I could. I was exhausted and over with it at that point. I had nothing left in me. The one solace that I had is that I knew I gave it my best effort. Only now, 3 and 1/2 years later is my ex showing signs of remorse and regret. It's only to late because of me now, not her.
You can detach minus the dating and try again. The one thing you don't want to take from this experience is the regret that you still loved your H and didn't at least give an effort in trying to win him back. There won't be any closure for you.
Last edited by Astimegoeson; 02/24/0904:16 AM.
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