My first step out of Newcomers

[PositivelyMommy]

Sorry if anyone feels I'm letting the side down by reacting like this.

Kev, this is typical approval seeking behavior, Mr Nice Guy. You don't have to apologize to us! We won't think any less of you because you were upset that your W lied to you and said she is not ready to go out and then goes out behind your back. It's a reasonable reaction. Give yourself permission to be angry! Anger is not bad, it's what you do with it that determines good and bad behaviors. I tell my S8 this all the time because he feels he needs to be punished for being angry. I told him that all emotions are healthy and I would like him to experience everything - joy, sadness, fun, anger, frustrations, elation etc. etc. It means that he is living life to the full! I am happy for him if he has all of those emotions.

However, if he kicks someone because of his anger then that is not acceptable, see the difference? You will find out more about things like these when you attend parenting classes. They are truly great. In fact, I would suggest if you have any in your neighborhood to check them out, parenting psychology has a lot in common with MC, I think. It's never too soon to start those as your child is young but he can feel and see the values you set with your attitude to things. If you are more aware then your language will reflect acceptance rather than authoritarian. Believe me, I am working hard on this but not successful every time.

Back on track, you can feel whatever feelings you want, like Saffie said. It's not WRONG to feel feelings, even negative ones. Post your feelings, don't worry about what we think. Your opinion and feelings matters and we'd rather talk to you, the real person, as opposed to an idealized version of Kev.