Oh also Moolocks, can you describe for us what your H would say the problems you two have? You said that he feels that your problems are much bigger than simply lack of sex. Can you tell us what he thinks those bigger problems are? There is a chance here that if you and he can work out those "other" problems, the sex will improve along the way...
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He feels that we have lost our emotional conection. It makes me crazy, because I'm right here. He wants to connect. I want to connect. I'm reaching out--so connect with me already!
I've been trying harder in the last week to figure out what his emotional needs are, and trying to meet them. I've also been cleaning out the whole house (I'm traditionally the disorganized one here) and spending more time asking him about his day. In the past--since his work addiction--I haven't particularly wanted to ask about his day. I think I did withdraw to some extent. I'm angry that he works and works and works until there is nothing left for me. However, I'm laying that aside for now because I'm in emergency mode.
His theraist told him that he thought the lack of desire was most likely related to what he's going through now. Maybe a little bit, but this is by no means a new problem. At least he's seeing a doctor to rule out hormonal issues this week. He'll do that for me. I just don't get why he won't make the 8 inch journey from his side of the bed to mine.
