Sorry you had a rough time last night. Looks like you got some great advice. I too think you need to stick with the darkness. He does sound rattled and trying anything to get a reaction from you.
As we're constantly advised here - you need to do what YOU want to do and leave him blowing in the wind. How long have you been separated? Maybe it hasn't been enough time?
Hang in there.
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10