Thought we were done... Then XW comes back.

[still hopeful]

I find your situation riveting, in that my XW hasn't decided she'd like to work things out, but I keep jumping right back in the frying pan of emotional panic to be with her. My rational self goes with what Reading your thread, particularly Iodo's post of:

If your XW wanted to be with you, she'd be bending over backwards to make it work right now. She's not. All she's done is tested the waters to see if she still can string you along or not. It's a power thing....

All of this sobering discussion rings true. After 3 years of DBing in my own rambling way, the only true thing I can say is that my sitch is still alive and I'm still confused as hell. I do thank you for sharing your sitch with all of us, because reading about others' journeys helps me to see different, alternative paths to reconciliation that I haven't tried yet.