BUNS, ABS, AND HEART OF STEEL

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Trusting,

You know I've followed your sitch as you also follow mine, but I have to agree with Ali on this:

"I read along and I dont really see your ex doing things to push YOUR buttons, perhaps you just interpret it that way, make it about you when maybe it isnt really?"

I mean, consider how much time you spent plotting the destruction or pain of your worst enemy. Probably not much! Why would you assume that your H is spending this much time trying to hurt you? He is probably just off in lala land and doesn't think how he'd hurt you.

Trusting, you are still hurting and we all understand this, but consider what makes someone want to apologize, or have the humility to do so. If you freeze him out, he KNOWS he is still getting to you. Your dark can't be cold, too.

The DB C I spoke with said that dark is not quite right, nor is dim. She suggest firefly: Bright/gone. Bright/gone. I still think dark is good and healing, but it should help you to not be so angry.

I have thought so much about forgiveness, and how difficult it is...I do think we have to think about how it is to be forgiven. When you've screwed up (OK, maybe not this bad but other times), think how you felt when someone forgave you.

Yes, your H is still with OW, but he has also done something my H has not done: admitted that it was not a good idea and that he is unhappy. So do not punish him with your lack of presence.

If you soften up to H and start being available, I believe you could see movement forward. I mean this in a gentle way, but Trusting, your dark seems cold, too. I relate to you completely and emotionally you often post things that I feel, too, but I am trying to be softer.