I agree with Carlos, it does sound like you are in a good state of mind. The only thing I would add is be careful to saty aware of your feelings as they happen and to allow yourself to feel them.
It wouyld not be unusual to have some feelings of sadness or loss come up with your W in the house. Just make sure you are making room for that.
W and MIL left yesterday. They stayed a lot shorter than I thought. S had a blast with them and they miss him badly also.
It was quite a tearful moment when they were leaving. It just broke my heart. S was so cute and he even asked 'Where did mommy go?'....I didn't answer him. I just couldn't.
W and I didn't have any R talk or anything like that. We have an understanding that she needs to take care of herself first before anything else. I didn't offer any because she didn't ask. She also agrees that S is happier with me. I told her that S is smart and he can feel the energy from the people around him. With her and MIL being depressed is not really helping.
For me, it was a good visit. I felt even more detached than before. It can only help me.
Another busy week ahead for me, we are having a mini family reunion from my mom side. Aunts and uncles are coming from Canada, Hong Kong, NY and Australia. I can't wait to see them. S is going to have so much fun with them....
Got to go...check in later.
NW626
Me:33 STBXW:38 S:3 It's not whether you win or lose, it's how you fight the fight....!!
Sounds like you're really moving to a better mental place... You are very much detached and that will help you make yourself happy.
Just wondering: Do you still see a way back to having feelings for your W, or is that completely over?
For me, I don't preoccupy myself with our sitch very much at all anymore, I know I will be happy again, no matter what happens, but I still have feelings for my W. Was wondering where you are in that regard.
Since she moved out, I haven't seen her much. When she was here, I felt the distance between us was even greater than before. I had almost no feelings toward her. She was like a stranger who I feel sorry for. After she left, some of the feelings did come back, not too much. I am not sure why, may be because of her past images are still looming in my head. Or may be the interaction with S because he does mention W once a while.....
In reality, she is not part of the family anymore. She is not my W, may be on paper...!! She has this OM in her life. After her last visit, I feel even stronger that I need to start the legal process, at least the legal separation for protecting myself. Like Coach said, the button line is I can only control me. Any efforts that I spend on her will be just wasted energy. I rather use them on something else...
Yes, you are correct. You will be happy again. It could happen a lot sooner that you think.
NW626
Me:33 STBXW:38 S:3 It's not whether you win or lose, it's how you fight the fight....!!
Hey V I am doing pretty good. Lots of family member are in town and we are having a great time. I was really close to them before we started moving away to different country. My S is having great time with them. He has been so excited everyday and it took him a while to calm down each night before bed time.
As far as on the R/M side, it is still the same. I haven't have much feelings toward my W, actually almost none the pass several days. It could be because I've been so busy with everyone else, another beauty of GAL....!!! Actually tomorrow is our wedding anniversary, but I have no extra sadness\feelings about it. It is just like another day. It is just another day that I can spend time with my S, friends and family. It is just another day that I need to cherish and live to the fullest. So I have no plan on doing anything special for tomorrow except just enjoy the day....!!
NW626
Me:33 STBXW:38 S:3 It's not whether you win or lose, it's how you fight the fight....!!
I am so glad to hear you sounding strong and positive. I am glad that you and your son are able to spend so much time with your family. That is wonderful for all of you.
As for your anniversary, it sounds like you have a good handle on things, but do not hesitate to reach out to people here or in the alt. if you have feelings crop up that yu would like to discuss or if it turns out you would just like to have some support.
