Honestly, I would not suggest MLC to him. He will probably tell you no anyway. At this point, put nothing past him. It is an unfortunate thought but if it is MLC, there is no rhyme or reason. That is why we call it the rollercoaster and alien sightings around here. I know you want to help and support him through anything but I will tell you and so will anyone who is on this side of the MLC, you can't do the work for them, you can't make them do it, and honestly if you suggest it they probably will take longer to do it to spite you. That being said, you can validate his feelings, you can listen without trying to change his mind, without showing him you have a differing opinion, without trying to convince him of how happy you were etc...He may really open up to you or he may not. This is really new for you. Eventually you will be strong enough to set forth boundaries for your self.
Right now, you just need to breath and get over the shock and read others stories. Unfortunately there is no one right answer and no one right way. You will find many differing opinions on this site alone. You sort of have to try and see what works and doesn't work for you. Read on here, read the MLC forum. Right now just read. First to make sure you really think what he is doing resembles all of the crazy mlc stories out there, to realize you aren't alone, and to maybe get some ideas where to start.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
