Good for you. I'm proud of you for having the conversation and even prouder still for how you handled the conversation.
You kept things focused on you and your changes. That is good. You discussed your changes and not her lack of changes. That is good.
You were able to disarm her anger and even get her to thank you. When was the last time you were able to elicit a thank you from her? I'm sure you were filled w/a wide range of emotions, but I'm so proud of you for keeping them in check and keeping your focus on what was important - letting the past go.
This is what you needed to do b/c now you can continue to "walk the walk" of your changed life. What happens next is anyone's guess.
You have shown W that you are ok w/out her and you have changed for the betterment of not only you, but for whomever you are involved w/next and your boys.
Will it be W? It could be, but if it isn't, you've laid the groundwork needed to move forward.
Again, I'm very proud of where you are and what you did. I'm not sure if my XW will be receptive to a talk like that, but maybe someday she will be.
RTL PS - You said this about your therapy sessions and your W's perceptions of you:
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my T quickly determined that I don't have an anger management issue at all
My XW is in the exact same boat. She says I have problems w/"rage" and "anger" which is why she left me. If you've read any of the e-mails from her I've posted, I think it is clear who has the anger problem. Can you say projection? Your W is in the same boat as mine.
