Hi Sandi, I know, I know. After listening to CIW's point of view, I have a little more sympathy for H. You see when someone is insecure, they need a lot of reassurance. Remember the first time you drove a car? Or when you started a new hobby like tennis or something? You want people to tell you how you are doing it right, not how you are doing it wrong. The more encouragement you get, the more you would like the activity and enjoy it and take pleasure in it. As I see it, the more pleasure it gives my H in his parenting role, my kids get most of the rewards - they get a loving father. I want to be able to give that to my children!!!
So yes, I am sarcastic as well in regards to, why don't I get any kudos from HIM. But I need to let my pride down and say to myself, if the rewards go to my kids then that is the BEST outcome for me.
I don't have low self-esteem. I know I am a good mom. I don't need someone else to tell me that, to validate my role. My goal is the happiness of my children in this matter.
Everything else can wait, our R, everything. I want my kids protected and happy.
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09
