Slowly but surely - detach and 180

[pearlharbr]

On the other hand I am not good at detaching mentally. I still think about her constantly and have a hard time sleeping. I am totally distracted at work. At an oscar party last night, at a friends, everything reminded me of her. All the othe couples, many of the movies. And last night I dreamed about getting back together again. I have read that spending time alone makes it harder to keep your mind off of it and my 30 min commute each way is definitely a bad time for thinking. This is my main thing to work on.

I know it's hard, this is why it's recommended to fill your time with GAL activities. Can you listen to a book during your commute? That really keeps your mind occupied, much better than music. Do NOT go see movies that will remind you of your sitch. I learned this the hard way! (But I was trying to see all the Oscar pics before the awards...) Other movies are a good distraction though. Or taking some type of class. Don't know what to tell you about work. Maybe you can write down a few goals of what you want to accomplish during the day so you can having something visual to remind you to stay on task.

And see your doctor about sleeping pills. They help. A lot.

Keep working, it will get easier.