Thanks Cinders....My gut is telling me to run. But Im not ready to do that yet. I dont think. But I may just have to.
Im wondering now what I might need to be prepared to say if he does decide that leaving and staying gone is best. I dont know how I should handle it.
Any words of advice?
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I'm afraid I have no words of advice either. All I can say is this.....back to the trust issue.
Is he earning your trust? Doesn't sound like he has a clue how much trust his R with this OW is eroding. He is in the same pattern he always has been. That is his comfort zone. You have your own comfort zone and he doesn't seem to fit into that.
Do what you need to do for your own wellbeing. That's all I can say.
I'm here for you!!!
BTW, are you in the alt?
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Thanks for your words though. Im struggling between wanting my marriage to work and thinking it never will. I see him in this cycle over and over again. Even now if he decides not to come back, I know that he will want to in a few weeks or months. He will never be happy with whatever decision he makes. He will always wonder if it was the right one.
Looks like Im going to have to be the one to make the final decision...for my sake.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Thanks you guys...yes it is my decision and I have been seriously thinking on telling him that. I just have to really mean it when I say it.
Mishka you can find me on MWG or dar's. They will let you know how to find me! Thanks!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I feel bad sometimes that I cant trust my H....but he made it that way.
He went to the store last night and all I could think was he went to see the possible OW.
But he did go to the store. I feel like screaming sometimes.
And he is so weird sometimes.
He is always so curious about what Im doing, but acts as if it doesnt matter. What could that mean?
Like, I asked him to pick up our son from me at work yesterday. He said he would then asked did I have somewhere to go. I just replyed yes, knowing all the while he would ask where I was going. And he did a few minutes later. Then comes back with "it doesnt matter"....ok, then why ask?
Then when he called me last night I kinda got off of the phone with him in a hurry because I was doing something online. Well, he then goes online from his phone and comes on my messenger to say "you sure did jump online real quick". I feel like i am constantly being put under suspiscion, but when I ask why he does that, he says just because, no reason, doesnt matter.
Is it that I dont want you but I dont want anyone else to have you syndrome??
Or is it something else? Drives me crazy sometimes.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
