RE-POST HUSBAND NO LONGER LOVES ME

[kelaaron]

Regrets-I wanted to suggest MLC but I didn't want to put ideas into your head either. My H is also in one and it started when he was 33 in 2006. It is now 2009. No I am not trying to discourage you. I only realized what it was last year when everything really went to major he**. I used to have threads but they were really for me to vent out several years of frustrations so I don't think they will help too much. What I can tell you is that if you focus on you, which is what you have to do right now, you will find your way. There will be days, there will be many many days when you will wonder what am I doing? There will be days when you will say I give up. But it does get easier. Follow Beary's advice on making self stronger. Try not to take everything personally. And try to remember if things start to get worse, you may be in the calm before the storm right now. But that doesn't mean they can't get better. I had finally come to a really good place. Accepted what I was pretty sure was the end of my M, started making my own friends and was doing well to have him poke his head out and say something completly contradictory to what he has said for the last 2 years. Nothing has changed and I honestly don't know if I even want it to if it is possible but I am starting to see that they do open their eyes every now and then and after all this time, I really didn't think that was possible. Read here, read the MLC threads, especially the resource threads. Make yourself calm and strong. Prepare for this to take time. Vent, vent, vent here. There is lots of good advice and support and help.