Hey, Kat! Thanks for stopping by. I think it is amazing how the ones who left and broke the vows w/an affair (or several) are also very quick to point the finger back at those left behind.
My XW said it was "my fault" she had an affair. Interesting take, eh? She is also saying the fact she brought Mr. Affair around right away to interact w/D (we called him "the Snake" here on the boards) and now has a new BF who is over all the time (my D says he and "mommy have sleep-overs on the weekends and on school nights too"). She says having either man in her life so quickly after me is doing NOTHING negative to our D.
It is w/me that our D breaks down and wonders why we aren't still together. D has cried and said "it isn't right for you to leave the person you love just because you like someone new." I didn't put that in her head, but I'll be accused of doing it.
In the end I understand the only person's approval I need is my D's and I know that XW will never take any of the blame for her actions and their consequences.
In time, D will make her own choices and my focus is on my R w/her, being a good father, and doing things to the best of my ability.
Other than that, there isn't anything I can do. The rest is out of my hands.
