A friend once told me one of the reasons I am having discipline issues with my children is that I am living with an unrepentant adulterer and they have no idea what happened. The dark secret effects EVERYTHING. My children's desire to emulate their mom's free-wheeling non-Christian "self-actualization" is not informed by the fact that their mother cheated on me and tried to replace me with OM in her bed and in my children's life. They don't see the dark forces that lie beneath the "turkish delight" of new freedom.
It is hard enough to raise children as parents when both of you are consistent and 'singing from the same song sheet'. It is hard enough to be consistent when you ARE getting along as parents and co-parenting well. Children sniff out cracks in their parents armour from quite a distance and they have very strong Bsh!t meters. I have seen some consequences of my M problems emerging in my children, but it is hard to establish how much is down to general teenage angst and how much really is due to the M breakdown. All one can do is pray that the morals and principles we laid down for our children when they were small will shine through eventually. We cannot protect them forever from life and it's consequences.
Do not let your anger and hurt detract from the R you can have with your children. If telling the older children will reduce your anger and bitterness then perhaps you should do that.
As you know, I worry about you and your children continuing to live in such a toxic enviroment.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
